If you don’t feel like you are living in your best condition and it feels as if you have lost your belief system about how successful and good you can be, then welcome to Beautiful and Balanced!
As women, we know there are so many expectations placed on us – be the best mother, the perfect wife, have the perfect children, living unselfishly for others, be nice, be the good girl, make everyone else happy first before you.
Honestly, given the unique expectations that women in particular face in their lives, whether spoken or unspoken, it’s no wonder we spend our lives trying to please everyone but ourselves.
Of course, there’s no shame in making our friends and family happy but there comes a time when you have to face what living by everyone else’s expectations is doing to you physically but most importantly, mentally! You have to face who you are, who you want to be and how in the world to even get there!
And my time came on September 19, 2005 – only I didn’t know it yet. September 19th was the day I received the most wonderful surprise of my life – I learned I was expecting a baby. After regaining consciousness, the doctor informed me of my due date (which just happened to be the same date as my 11th wedding anniversary) and my organized brain disappeared along with life the way I had known in all its organized, very routine, and maintained perfection at all cost glory!
Before the baby, I organized everything and couldn’t function if something was out of place. Dinner menus – made out months in advance including the days my husband and I would eat out. Grocery lists – I kept a mini notebook with me of items needed based on the dinner menus I created so it too was made out months in advance. Chores – assigned a specific day so everything (including things like cleaning the fridge) were done on a weekly basis.
After the baby – I would forget where I was going, what I was talking about, forget what I came into a room to get, had pieces of paper lying all over the house with “to do” items written on them, and dinner menus – I couldn’t even find a pencil to create one!
I felt out of control and I didn’t like it. I felt powerless and angry all the time but didn’t know why. But at the same time, I felt a stronger urge to prove I still had it. I was a different mother than everyone else, that I wasn’t overwhelmed like others seemed, that I was handling everything wonderfully (even though I struggled with postpartum) because I was never allowed to show weakness. The expectation I had accepted from others in my life was that I could handle anything!
Not anymore folks but getting there was another story. Over the next few years, I watched as relationships changed, me and my husband, with siblings, my own mother, my own child and the internal struggle with myself to find AND accept my new identity – a more honest form of me!
That’s why I created this site. So many years I wasted trying to please other people, trying to live up to someone else’s expectations for me but never being asked what I wanted much less even having the courage to stand up for what I wanted because it might make someone else upset! I eventually came to accept that SOMETHING had to change and I couldn’t go on this way!
So expect to find helpful information to you on how to live your best life through inner beauty and balance, empowerment through business and better relationships with yourself and others.
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