As you begin your journey toward happiness, you will discover that a lot of doubts creep into your mind along the way. These doubts are a part of being human so know that they can be controlled and managed so they don’t have to hold you back.
So how do you starting tackling your self doubts?
Start Recording Your Thoughts in a Journal
Now is the perfect time to start keeping a journal everyday as a safe place for your thoughts. This is the one place where you are allowed to write freely about your self doubts. Don’t worry about perfect grammar, spelling or sentence structure because this isn’t an essay to be completed. Just start writing your thoughts down so you can start developing a picture of your internal issues. Sometimes we think we know how we feel but if you’re like me, once you start writing, you will be amazed and yes, shocked sometimes to see what’s really going on with you.
Tell Yourself to Stop
This move might sound silly but it does work. There is absolutely nothing wrong with strong self-talk that instructs your mind to stop with the self-doubt and other negative feelings. Even though these thoughts creep up when you least expect them, you DO have full control over your own thoughts. Sometimes you need to stay “STOP!” out loud for your mind to hear (might sound silly but it works!). It’s within your power to put a stop to your emotionally damaging thoughts whose only purpose are to keep you doubting yourself and from achieving your best life.
Let the Past Stay in the Past
Avoid dwelling in the past because it WILL contribute to your self-doubt. Decisions you made last week or even last year are past and there is nothing you can do about it now. NOTHING! You can’t take back your choices and decide differently now – it’s just not possible!!! So the best thing you can do is leave your past where it belongs – in the past.
However, you are allowed to look at your past mistakes as learning opportunities for today. What would you have done differently? How would a different choice have changed the outcome? Start working on today and making good choices going forward that will have a positive impact on your life. If there are people that keep reminding you of the past, it might be time to limit your association with them so you can focus only on positive things.
Stop Comparing Your Life With Others
Please stop the comparisons! This is a very bad habit that will only lead to disappointment and self-doubt. When you start comparing yourself to others, you might see ways that their life seems better – their husband seems perfect, kids are so smart, bodies are so fit, friends galore – but you don’t know the whole story. We have all been guilty of presenting an image of perfection to others so they think well of us.
Just remember, you see only how things appear on the surface without any real evidence about whether it’s an accurate picture or not! You only know the details of your situation and a tiny bit of theirs so you don’t have enough to make a real comparison. Focus on improving yourself and stop worrying about the perfection you think you’re seeing in other people’s lives.
Nothing is perfect and you will be a whole lot happier taking care of your business and improving your situation than comparing your life to theirs.
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To your Beauty and Balance…